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[floranna]

I just realized one thing: I am truly scared of hurting someone's feelings. I am now nersous as hell because I think I hurt one of my friends feelings on saturday but I haven't seen her nor had contact to her after that. She hadn't slept well for almost a week and we were in a big company in a bar and she started arguing with her fiancee about wanting to go to sleep. I don't react well when people argue, I never know how to react so I tried to lighten mood a bit about joking. I didn't joke about her tiredness, (can't explain exactly) I think, but now I have a feeling she might think I insulted her. I am scared of that.

And the second thing is in the internet when I comment on one of the prompts I had given and received it back how it wasn't exactly I wanted it and the answer was a bit...prickly. I think. I answered immediatly how it was because of my vague prompt (it rtuly was) but I am still worried she might be hurt for my words.

And on the other news, I had the last performance of my acting course today and we were very good, but my mum said she would come to watch it but she messed up with times and arrived when it was already over. I was angry and hurt, for I wanted her to see it, but now I know that we will make a last performance on January, so I feel a bit better. It's important to me that my parents can see those projects I have been participating. Especially because this has lasted couple of months.

Comments

[devo79.livejournal.com]

About your friend: maybe she's busy getting some sleep. I doubt that she's angry with you. It's probably one of those times where what happened just grows and grows in your head while in reality it might not even be something she's thought about.

About the comment: Sometimes when people post comments here on lj the fact that you can't see their faces can make a simple comment posted in a hurry seem prickly when it really isn't. I would worry about it. Maybe the person is an ass and that's just the way he/she answers *shrugs* whatever the reason you didn't do anything to cause it.

About your mother: sorry to hear she missed it but she'll get another chance in January so things will work out after all.

[weirdlet.livejournal.com]

I think the comment thing is just basic mis-communication- that happens to me a lot in real life and on-line, missing cues or just finding that my particular filter doesn't mesh with someone else's and I've managed to blunder into something. We figure out what's the right thing to say by trial and error- it's just the error part that we've got to learn to accept and move on past. Same with hurt feelings, often.

[lady529.livejournal.com]

Most of the time it's just that someone's busy or something, I wouldn't worry too much : )

As for the internet thing, like others have said, things can seem harsher when there's no body language to accompany the words, but I also think people know this, and at least try to adjust a bit.

I'm sorry your mum didn't make it, but at least she didn't mess it up on purpose. I'm sure she was upset as well *hug*

The Lady 529